Are you at yours?
Life has many numerous challenges and through it all we must try to rejoice in YAHUAH, the Elohim of our Salvation!
Are you at yours?
Life has many numerous challenges and through it all we must try to rejoice in YAHUAH, the Elohim of our Salvation!
A few weeks ago, I read this scripture:
and then I looked up what a hind was:
The hind is the female deer that can place her back feet exactly where her front feet have stepped-not one inch off! She is able to run with abandonment! In times of danger, she is able to run securely and not get off track. The hind is able to scale usually difficult terrain and elude predators.
Then as I began to think upon it for few days, I found personal meaning in it and began to pray it over myself. Over the last few weeks, we have had some difficult and challenging things happen. Normally I would have been panicking and been all upset, but this scripture came to my mind and YAHUAH strengthened and helped me to stay on track, climbing above:
A bad cold-all the kids got sick, some at the same time, for several days.
Mold found in the walls of our 1 year old brand new build home!!! This took weeks of restoration and part of our house was unusable.
The stomach flu – by the time I realized that we were dealing with the stomach flu, our youngest son, had thrown up on me so bad that my clothes had to be cut off of me, our bed spread was destroyed and everything on it. When it seemed like he was okay and while I was scrubbing the bathrooms, he threw up again, again, and again. Finally he went to sleep…then when he awoke after getting just a bit of water, the vomiting started all over again. This was on the Shabbat, so he and I stayed in our Master bath, until I felt he was able to keep water and food down for awhile.
Homeschool Preparation Challenges – I was able to buy curriculum well in advance this for the school year 2017-2018, but I was not able to prepare as I had hoped. This has caused me to feel stressed but I was able to get enough done for a short time.
Other health challenges – some issues we thought we were done with, appeared again. Other new challenges came. These challenges require us to be on alert and sometimes require immediate action-which means “my” daily plans often get turned upside down.
The list could go on and on…however I know that YAHUAH give me the strength in every moment and gives me wisdom when I ask. I believe YAHUAH is helping me to see that He is in control-regardless of my plans, preparations, and best efforts. Like the hind He is also keeping my feet on track and though there are all these things happening that can get me off track, I know He is leading me in the way that He wants me to go.
All praise, honor and esteem to the Father of lights, YAHUAH, in whom there is no shadow of turning.
“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither a shadow of turning.” Ya’aqov (James) 1:17
It is really great to come to know the truth about the Name of the Father – YAHUAH, the Name of the Son – YAHUSHA, the history behind all the traditions we have been taught – however we still live lives that deal with issues and challenges. We need encouragement for our beings. Also because we are often miles away from anyone with similar beliefs, walking and growing in YAHUAH can be very lonely. We weren’t created to be islands separated from any other signs of life. We need other people.
With all that is going on – storms, job issues, food issues, health issues, racial problems, parenting issues-LIFE-we need encouragement through these times. The messages presented by Exalted Life Fellowship In YAHUSHA HaMASHIACH are meeting that need.
Welcome to a new series that I am working through introducing you to our school. I hope to share with you why we homeschool, our high and lows, suggestions, things we we’ve learned in 10 years and counting of homeschooling, curriculum, struggles, links and more.
Today, I want start right off with sharing why we homeschool.
We homeschool because we want to and because we can. Like many homeschool families, our decision to homeschool was based on the scriptures-meaning teaching our children YAHUAH’s ways and not the worlds. Scriptures such as Debarim (Deuteronomy) 6:4-9; Yirmeyahu (Jeremiah) 10:2; YeshaYahu (Isaiah) 54:13; Vayiqra (Leviticus) 20:22-23 are our foundation.
Other reasons for homeschooling include:
When I was a teenager, I really wanted school to be tailored to my needs and interested and I did not like the peer pressure of school. I was a good student and I had some awesome teachers. Those teachers took time with me in countless ways. I had some great opportunities and was part of many things, but still I had a thought that this was not the education I wanted for my future family. Furthermore, I wanted a closer relationship with my mother (she was a single mother of 3, my father chosing not to be very involved). She did her very best and I am truly thankful.
I had only heard “homeschooling” mentioned but did not know what it was. Later in my earlier twenties, I met a few families here and there who homeschooled. I observed the families and spent time with their kids. Looking back, I would have asked their mother tons of questions and looked at the curriculums.
When we became pregnant with our first child, I began reading and researching homeschooling. I understood that it was not something to take lightly or “by the seat of my pants.” I knew that it would take work (did not know how much).
As we have grown in our walk with the Father YAHUAH and His Only Brought Forth Son YAHUSHA HaMashiach, homeschooling has become a wonderful blessing and honor. We get the opportunity to see, help, grow, nuture, and encourage our children in every area of their lives. We have struggled through reading, triumphed in math, soared in spelling but most of all there are two areas that are the most important:
I am not saying this cannot be accomplished in public/private education but that it is easier for us by homeschooling.
Next, our school set-up (calendar, quarters, etc.), 2017-2018 Curriculum Choices, Curriculum Reviews, A Day in Our School and more.
These womens stories are found in the The Cepher of Toviyahu also called Tobit, which is found in The Cepher and Apocrypha.
Toviyahu who was also called Tobit was one of the great-grandsons of Naphtaliy (because his son is also named “Toviyahu” I will refer to him as “Tobit” so that it is easier to know who I am writing about). Tobit was left an orphan and raised by his fathers mother, Deborah. While he was young, all the tribes revolted and started sacrificing to a pagan elohiym. Tobit chose not to participate and chose to continue following YAHUAH by going to the Feasts in Yerushaliym – often alone. He would bring a tenth of his increase to the sons Aharon, one tenth he spent, and another part he gave to others as his grandmother had told him to.
“And the third I gave unto them to whom it was meet, as Deborah my father’s mother had commanded me, because I was left an orphan.” Tobit 1:8
The wisdom given from his grandmother encouraged him to be a giver to those who had needs, not to be selfish, greedy or building a stock pile for himself.
When he was old enough, he married Channah and they had a son whom they named Toviyahu. Sometime later, they and others were carried away and taken into captivity to Niyneveh by Enemessar king of the Assyrians. Many of the people, did eat the bread of the Assyrians, however Tobit – kept himself from eating their bread because he remembered Elohiym (the food of the Assyrians was probably unclean). Because of his choosing to obey YAHUAH, YAHUAH gave Tobit favor with Enemessar and Tobit worked for him.
At one point he left 10 talents of silver with Gavay’el in the city of Madai. Tobit still continued to provide for the poor and began to bury the dead. Eventually though, Enemessar died and his son Cancheriyv reigned in his place. King Cancheriyv was very wrathful and killed many people. When this happened Tobit would go and bury the bodies. Eventually some people told King Cancheriyv what Tobit was doing and he fled because Cancheriyv said that he should be killed. All of his things were taken from him, except his wife and son. Fifty five days later, two of King Cancheriyv’s own sons killed him and one of them, Ecar-Chaddon became the ruler. He appointed Achiacharus to be his cupbearear, keeper of the signet, steward and overseer of the accounts. Tobit was the uncle of Achiacharus, and Achiacharus asked Ecar-Chaddon if Tobit could return to his job. King Ecar-Chaddon agreed and Tobit went home again and was restored back to his family. This happened during the Feast of Shavu’ot and his wife, Channah prepared a wonderful dinner for him to eat. However when he saw all the meat she had prepared, he told his son to go and bring the poor that worship YAHUAH into the feast. He said that he would wait to eat until Toviyahu returned.
Toviyahu returned but there is a problem. He found one of their people strangled and the body was thrown to the side. Tobit then went and took the persons body and laid it in an upper room. Then he cleaned himself and ate his meal in sadness. At sunset, he made a grave and buried the body. His neighbors who were watching him, mocked him for what he was doing.
That night he returned home and slept by a wall in the courtyard. While his face was uncovered, sparrows-defecated in his eyes. A white film covered his eyes and he sought for a physician to help him. But there was nothing they could do. Tobit 2:1-10
Since he could not see, that meant he could not work, so Channah, stepped up and did women’s work (Tobit 2:11-14). The scriptures do not tell us what she made, only that she did women’s work. Her family needed her help and Channah did what she needed to do. She had a willing heart.
Channah was paid her wages for her work and was given a kid (baby goat). When she came home with it, Tobit asked her where she got it from and reminded her that it was against Torah to eat anything that was stolen.
But she replied, “It was given for a gift more than the wages.”
Tobit did not believe her though and was really upset with her, he was trying to make her take it back to the owners until, she said:
“Where are your alms and your righteous deeds? Behold, you and all your works are known.” Tobit 2:14
I believe this statement can either be taken two ways:
Tobit began to weep and prayed in his sorrow to YAHUAH (Tobit 3:1-6). He cried out to YAHUAH in great distress, even asking YAHUAH to take his life:
“O YAHUAH, You are just, and all Your works and all your ways are mercy and truth, and You judge truly and justly forever. Remember me, and look on me, punish me not for my sins and ignorance, and the sins of my fathers, who have sinned before You: For they obeyed not Your commandments: wherefore You have delivered us for a spoil, and unto captivity, and unto death, and for a proverb of a reproach to all the nations among whom we are dispersed. And now Your judgements are many and true: deal with me according to my sins and my fathers’: because we have not kept Your commandments, neither have we walked in truth before you. Now therefore deal with me as seems best unto You, and command my ruach to be taken from me, that I may be dissolved, and become earth: for it is profitable for me to die rather than to live, because I have heard false reproaches and have much sorrow: command therefore that I may now be delivered out of this distress, and go into the everlasting place: turn not Your face away from me.”
That same day that Tobit prayed, in the city of Madai, Sarah, the daughter of Re’u’el and Edna, was criticized by her father’s maids. They criticized her because she had been married to seven men, however, the night the marriage bed was to be shared, the men somehow died.
What no one understood was there was an evil ruach, Asmodeus that was killing the men (Tobit 3:8).
The maids made her feel so bad that she thought of taking her own life, however she said:
Before she reacted in her sorrow and torment she thought about the consequences of her actions. She thought of her father and she did not want to do anything that would cause her father grief and pain. Then she turned toward the window and prayed to YAHUAH:
Sarah’s prayer is so awesome! She first acknowledges YAHUAH, blesses Him, then she states her case:
YAHUAH heard both of their prayers…
All along, YAHUAH had a plan for Sarah. She could not be just any man’s wife. There was nothing that she was doing wrong. She belonged to Toviyahu from the beginning.
Sometimes things in life just don’t seem to be happening for us – no matter how we try. We might try different avenues to get or do something “If I sign up for this”, “If I do that”, “If I connect with that person”, “If I look like this” and so forth. But the result is still the same. Nothing makes the difference, if anything the pain, hurt and rejection just continues.
Just as YAHUAH heard their prayers, I know that HE hears ours too. We like them, often can’t see His answers in our lives because YAHUAH is working in the background unseen. We have to walk by faith and not by sight.
Next we see what happens between Toviyahu (the son) and how YAHUAH uses Rapha’el to bring healing and peace in all of their lives.
Their names where Meriyvah and Malchuth. They were the wives of Yishma’el and had very different personalities or responses. At times I have been one but I strive continually to be like the other. Let’s learn about them now.
After Yishma’el and Hagar are sent away by Avraham (Yashar 21:11-17), they lived in the wilderness for awhile, then they went to Mitsrayim. Meriyvah, also known as Riv’ah was taken as a wife for Yishma’el, by his mother Hagar while they dwelt in Mitsrayim (Yashar 21:17 and Yashar 25:15) . She bore him four sons, Nevayoth, Qedar, Adbe’el, Mivsam and two daughters (Yashar 21:18 and Yashar 25:14-16-only says one daughter Basmath). Sometime later Yishma’el, his mother, his woman and his children leave Mitsrayim and go back to living in the wilderness, living in tents, traveling here and there.
Avraham desiring to see Yishma’el goes to pay him a visit (Yashar 21:22). He is old and advanced in years, so Sarah reminded him to stay on his animal (Yashar 21:26). When he arrives at Yishma’els place he witnesses somethings that disturb him greatly.
It is about noon, when he arrives at Yishma’els place and inquires where Yishma’el is. Someone direct him to Yishma’els tent where he finds, Meriyvah sitting in the tent with the children (Yashar 21:23). Avraham asks her where Yishma’el is and she says that he had gone into the field to hunt-she is still in the tent.
Then he asks her for some water, but she answered saying that they had no bread nor water. She wasn’t prepared at tall. She was still sitting in the tent. To add more fire, she was beating the children, cursing them, cursing Yishma’el and reproaching (which means chiding, reproving, criticizing, scolding, blaming) him. Who knows if that was just her demeanor-you know just how she is, or whether she and Yishma’el had had an argument that morning. Maybe she wanted to go away with him too? Why should she be stuck at home with the kids, again? Wasn’t she important too? Why did his mother have to go with him? Maybe it was one of those days? Maybe she was tired? Maybe she was…..
While we can all fill in the blanks from our own lives with our own attitudes or incidents that at the root of our hearts. The words of her lips, the actions of her hands and the selfishness she displayed spoke loud and clear. All of this in front of a stranger.
She could have still been upset but that aside when this stranger came up. She could have sent someone to get water. She could have gotten up and introduced herself and found out who this man was. She could have welcomed this old man with hospitality and offered him to rest awhile (even though he would not have gotten off his animal). She still could have showed hospitality. We all know that kids can misbehave, but we must be wise in our actions and word choices with them. We definitely should not be cursing them or beating them. Furthermore, she should not be speaking ill of her husband at all-rather praying for him. Praying for his safety. Praying that YAHUAH would provide meat for their home…
I am not merely pointing the finger at Merivyah but at myself. In times past, I have spoken ill of my husband, in frustration. I have taken my frustration out on our kids by speaking ugly words. I have been selfish not to notice the needs of others. I have. Yes I have. But many years ago, YAHUAH, told me that I needed to be careful what I said and thought about my husband, especially when I am upset. One thing I don’t do when I am upset, is call other people. Why? Because all it takes it one simple question from them and the flood gates of my wrath are released and I pour forth my feelings. In times past, at those times it felt great; but later, I regretted the words that I spoke. Many times, we have had disagreements or one of us is upset over something that simply is taken the wrong way. Many times it is the enemy causing trouble but we don’t see him in the problem, we see our spouse and they become our enemy. And we become tools of the enemy through our actions and words.
So, Avraham is very angry and displeased and finally calls the woman to come out of the tent. Then he told her to tell Yishma’el:
“A very old man from the land of the Pelishtiym came hither to seek you, and thus was his appearance and figure; I did not ask him who he was, and seeing you were not here he spoke unto me and said, “When Yishma’el your man returns tell him thus did the man say, When you come home put away this nail of the tent which you have placed here, and place another in its stead.” Yashar 21:31
Then he left and went home.
She didn’t ask who he was, even after she had come out of the tent. She probably didn’t look at him in the face, for if she did I am sure she would have noticed the resemblance of this man and Yishma’el and could have concluded that this was his father. She certainly wasn’t convicted by his words about her to tell her husband.
When Yishma’el returned, he had to go into the tent and look for her. She repeated what Avraham had said to tell Yishma’el and he knew it was Avraham who had come to him and that his woman did not honour him.
Think about that for a long while, I did.
Yishma’el understood the words that his father had spoken and he listened to Avraham and put the woman away/sent her back to her father’s house (Yashar 21: 36 and Yashar 25:17).
Then Yisham’el went and took a woman, Malchuth from the land of Kena’an and he bought her to his tent. She bore to him Nishma, Dumah, Massa, Chadad, Teyma, Yetur, Naphiysh and Kedma.
Three years, later Avraham returns. Let’s see what happens this time.
Again, he arrives at Yishma’els tent at noon. He asks about Yishma’el and…
Malchuth comes out of the tent and says “He is not here my master, for he has gone to hunt in the fields and to feed the camels.” Yashar 21:40
She stopped what she was doing, came out to greet him, showed respect to Avraham by calling him master and answered his question. Her demeanor and heart was that of a good servant. It was no problem for her to stop and talk with the man.
Then she said to Avraham:
“Turn in my master into the tent, and eat a morsel of bread, for your soul must be wearied on account of the journey.”
She shows hospitality and invites him in, offers something to eat and acknowledges his age (she could see he was an old man and more than likely needed rest) and that he had been traveling. Avraham declines the invitation to come into the tent but asks for some water.
Malchuth runs! She hastened and ran into the tent and brought out water and bread (she was prepared) to Avraham which she placed before him urging him to eat and drink! He ate and drank and his heart was comforted and he blessed his son Yishma’el, and blessed YAHUAH and then tells Malchuth to give Yishma’el this message:
“A very old man from the land of the Pelishtiym came hither and asked after you, and you were not here; and I brought him out bread and water and he ate and drank and his heart was comforted. And he spoke these words to me: When Yishma’el your man comes home say unto him, The nail of then which you have is very good, do not put it way from the tent.” Yashar 21:43-44
Then Avraham left and went home. I can only imagine how relieved he was as a parent that his sons’ spouse was respectful, graceful, hospitable, joyful, pleasant, prepared, and truly a blessing.
When Yishma’el returns home, guess what happens?
She comes out of the tent meeting him with joy and a cheerful heart.
He didn’t have to go searching for her. She wasn’t too busy to notice his return home. She wasn’t on the phone with her mother or best friend when he got back. She was looking for him. Children can truly test a marriage, whether one child or eight children but even still, she was full of joy and had a cheerful heart.
Lately I am finding many blogs with women who are encouraging wives to be very similar to Malchuth and this is so needed in this time of technology and idols are taking over the most important relationships we will have.
During our first year of marriage, a married woman gave me a piece of wisdom I have never forgotten. She said, “When your husband comes home, don’t be on the phone.” It is important to acknowledge our husband’s return home. It is something I make an active effort to do. Even when we are at odds, I still stop what I am doing, greet him, hug him and smile. I am not perfect, sometimes if we aren’t on good terms I don’t smile. But YAHUAH is working on my heart here lately to greet him always with a cheerful countenance.
What was Yishma’el‘s response?
“And Yishma’el knew that it was his father, and that his woman had honored him and YAHUAH blessed Yishma’el.” Yashar 21:48
I would also believe that she had a nice meal waiting for Yisham’el when he returned too!!!
I want to have a more hospitable home. I want to have blessings spurring forth from my mouth for my husband, for our children and others. I want to be prepared with water and bread. I want to do better at greeting my husband when he returns home. I want others to feel honoured when they are around me
; not that I am some bitter woman too busy to notice others, not thankful for the blessings in my life that YAHUAH has given me. I want what others witness about me, when I am out with our children, to bring honour and esteem to my husband and YAHUAH.
When I first read this chapter, I was convicted of the tone of voice that I use when I am out shopping with our kids. Some days it is a challenge to take all of our kids to the store. While it would be easier to go with a few or even I alone, I know that this teaches them how to shop and behave. Many times I have people come up to me and say they have never seen such well-behaved children. But what about me? Is my tone of voice too commanding? Am I being brash with my tones and not listening to the kids?
What about you? How do you see yourself now? Are you being a Meriyvah or Malchuth?
The next woman we will learn about is one who was married man times but an evil ruach slew her husbands’ on the wedding night. We learn how YAHUAH removed the evil ruach from her life and what happened to the eighth husband.
Shalom, I pray that you were encouraged in learning about Rivqah. Below are some additional scriptures to encourage mothers.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:5-6 Whoso honors his father shall have joy of his own children; and when he makes his prayer, he shall be heard. He that honours his father shall have long life; and that is obedient unto YAHUAH shall be a comfort to his mother.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:7 He that fears YAHUAH will honour his father, and will do service unto his parents, as to his masters.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:8 Honour your father and mother both in word and deed, that a blessing may come upon you from them.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:9 For the blessing of the father establishes the houses of children; but the curse of the mother roots our foundations.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:10-11 Glory not in the dishonor of your father; for your father’s dishonor is no glory unto you. For the glory of a man is from the honour of his father; and a mother in dishonor is a reproach to the children.
Sirach Ecclesiasticus (found in The Cepher or Apocrypha) 3:16 He that forsakes his father is as a blasphemer; and he that angers his mother is cursed of ELOHIYM.
Mishle (Proverbs) 4:3 For I was my father’s son, Tender and the only one in the eyes of my mother,
Mishle (Proverbs) 6:20 My son, watch over your father’s command, And do not forsake the Torah of your mother.
Mishle (Proverbs) 10:1 “Proverbs of Shelomoh: A wise son makes a father rejoice, But a foolish son is his mother’s sorrow.”
Mishle (Proverbs) 15:20 “A wise son makes a father glad, But a foolish man despise his mother.”
Mishle (Proverbs) 17:25 “A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her who bore him.”
Mishle (Proverbs) 19:26 “He who plunders a father, Chases away his mother, is a son causing shame and bringing reproach.”
Mishle (Proverbs) 20:20 “Whoever curses his father or his mother, His lamp is put out in darkness.”
Mishle (Proverbs) 23:22 “Listen to your father who brought you forth, And do not despise your mother when she is old.”
29:15 A road and reproof give wisdom, but a child unrestrained brings shame to his mother.
30:11 There is generation, that curses its father, and does not bless its mother-
31:1 The words of Sovereign Lemu’el, a message which his mother taught him
Tehilim 71:6 Upon You I have leaned from my birth; You took me out of my mother’s womb. My praise is continually of You.
Tehillim 116:16 O YAHUAH, I am truly Your servant, I am Your servant, the son of Your female servant; You have loosed my bonds.
Tehillim 131:2 Have I not calmed, and kept my being silent, Like one weaned by its mother? My being is like one weaned.
Tehillim 139:13 For You, You possessed my kidneys, You have covered me in my mothers womb.
Our current woman to study is Rivqah so far we have learned about the powerful blessing over Ya’aqov in Part 1 , then we learned about Ya’aqov blessing her by allowing her to witness his worship to YAHUAH in Part 2 and now we are going hear her final words of wisdom.
I have thought about her words to Ya’aqov many times over the past few weeks. One thing that she continued to encourage Ya’aqov to do, was to honour and respect his older brother, despite the favor that was on Ya’aqov’s life. She didn’t encourage strife. She didn’t pit them against one another. This again is displayed in her final words to Yitschaq, Ya’aqov and Esau. First she called Ya’aqov to her and encourages him to honour his father and brother all the days of his life.
In Yovheliym 35:2-5 he responds by saying:
“I will do everything as you have commanded me; for this thing will be honour and greatness to me, and righteousness before YAHUAH, that I should honour them. And you too, mother, know from the time I was born until this day, all my deeds and all that is in my heart, that I always think good concerning all. And how should I not do this things which you have commanded me, that I should honour my father and my brother! Tell me, mother, what perversity have you seen in me and I shall turn away from it, and mercy shall be upon me.”
Wow! Here again he is listening to her advice. He trusted his mothers words (more on that soon). He recognized that it was good for him to honour his father and brother. It appears to me that he saw that glass half full in life-he saw the positive in people and situations. Furthermore he opens himself up for correction by asking his mother what perversity-what wrong had she seen-all his life. To add to it that, he was willing to make any necessary changes. Many grown children today won’t receive anything from their parents. But that may have something to do with a child learning to trust the parent (more on that soon).
Then in verse 7 he laughs at her “because his mother had said unto that she should die; and she was sitting opposite to him in possession of her strength, and she was not infirm in her strength; for she went in and out and saw and her teeth were strong, and no ailment had touched her all the days of her life.”
What blessed woman she was and he saw it. He saw that his mother was still strong as ever-she had all her teeth, her eye-site and her strength. She didn’t have any health problems, her mind was straight. Being that she is over a hundred and fifty years I think that is totally awesome.
He then in verse 8 says:
“Blessed am I, mother, if my days approach the days of your life, and my strength remain with me thus as your strength: and you will not die for you are jesting idly with me regarding your death.”
He looked at her and probably burst out laughing, telling her to stop playing. Afterall look at how good she looked, she couldn’t possibly die now…right?
What a sharp contrast between the two brothers that Rivqah gives. From their days of youth, they were different. Esau didn’t listen to his parents. He was rebellious. He did things his way – certainly not YAHUAH’s way. He is one of those who say “it’s my life, now but out” but then has trouble later on. He stole from his parents, he did not help them and he held bitterness in his heart.
Ya’aqov on the other hand, was truly a blessing to them. He provided for his parents always. He seemed happy that he could provide for his parents needs -their need is no burden to him. In fact he rejoices when he helps them and he keeps the fifth commandment by honouring them.
In verses13-17, Yitschaq acknowledges what she says but saying he cannot control Esau:
“I, too, know and see the deeds of Ya’aqov who is with us, how that with all his heart he honours us, but I loved Esau formerly more than Ya’aqov, because he was the firstborn; but now I love Ya’aqov more than Esau, for he has done manifold evil deeds, and there is no righteousness in him, for all his ways are unrighteousness and violence, and there is no righteousness around him. And now my heart is troubled because of all his deeds, and neither he nor his seed is to be saved, for they are those who will be destroyed from the earth and who will be rooted out from under heaven, for he has forsaken the Elohiym of Avraham and gone after his women and after their uncleanness and after their error, Ya’aqov’s hands will he be given, and he will not escape from his hands, for he will descend into his hands. And fear you not on the account of Ya’aqov; for the guardian of Ya’aqov is great and powerful and honoured and praised more than the guardian of Esau.” Yovheliym 35:13-17
Here we see that Yitschaq finally acknowledges that he was wrong in favoring Esau simply because he was the first born. I can imagine that it was hard for Yitschaq to say that Esau was a wicked son and that he was troubled on account of Esau. Though most parents have one child (in some cases more) that are a challenge-Esau took the cake. He was selfish, a thief, idolatrous, full of lust, disrespectful, unloving, unthankful and certainly refused any instruction his parents tried to give him. Again, Yitschaq comforts Rivqah with words saying that Ya’aqov will be just fine.
Finally she calls Esau to her and says:
In spite of his wickedness, she still gave Esau instructions regarding where to bury her. She still respected that Esau was the oldest. She encouraged Esau to love Ya’aqov, that they should not desire evil against one another and that it will be good for them. She encouraged them to have a mutual love for one another.
Esau says that he will do what she asks:
“I will do all that you have told me, and I shall bury you on the day you die near Sarah, my father’s mother, as you have desired that her bones may be near your bones. And Ya’aqov, my brother, also, I shall love above all flesh; for I have not a brother in all the earth but him only: and this is no great merit for me if I love him; for he is my brother, and we were sown together in your body, and together came we forth from your womb, and if I do not love my brother, whom shall I love? And I myself, beg you to exhort Ya’aqov concerning me and concerning my sons, for I know that he will assuredly be king over me and my sons, for on the day my father blessed him he made him the higher and me the lower. And I swear unto you that I shall love him, and not desire evil against him all the days of my life but good only.” Yovheliym (Jubilees) 35:21-24
Do you see the contrast between the sons? When Rivqah talked about her death with Ya’aqov, he was quite surprised and talked about how much of a blessing she was. Esau-all he said was I will bury you where you asked me to however his main concern was what Ya’aqov could do to him and his sons when she was gone.
Finally, she calls them altogether and tells Ya’aqov to be nice to Esau and his sons. Then they ate and drank and she died that night, three jubilees (a jubilee is 49 years, 1 “week” is equivalent to 7 years and then 1 year is literally 1 year (49×3 =147, 147+7=154, 154+1=155)).
SHOULD I PUT THE BELOW AS A SIDE NOTE BECAUSE I KNOW SOMEONE WILL HAVE A QUESTION ABOUT THE AGE GIVEN AT DEATH. Bereshith doesn’t record her death, Yovheliym says 155 and Yashar says 133
A side note:
Bereshith doesn’t record Rivqah’s death, however Yovheliym and Yashar do. The age of her death is listed differently in both.
Yovheliym 35:6 & 27 – says that Rivqah was 155 years old at death, which was sometime after Binyamin was born (see Yovheliym 32:30-34). Also Yovheliym 19:10, says that she was “a woman” when she became Yitschaq’s wife.
Yashar 36:3-12 – says that Rivqah was 133 years at death, which was sometime before Binyamin was born. Also Yashar says that she was a “young woman”, when she was taken a wife for Yitschaq, see Yashar 24:29-45
I am more apt to believe Yovheliym because it was given to Mosheh by the angel of His presence see Yovheliym 1:1-5, 1:27-29 and 2:1.
Part 3 – Rivqah’s – Encouragement for Mothers coming up next!
Our current woman to study is Rivqah and last we learned about the powerful blessing that she gave Ya’aqov in Part 1. Now we are going to see how she witnessed an important time in his life.
Just like in Bereshith 27, Rivqah sees that Esau is about to get the blessing from Yitschaq. Rivqah probably remembered the words of Avraham in Yovheliym 19:15-31 and sees this is the moment that she must take action! She gives Ya’aqov instructions on what to do and prepares a disguise for him (Yashar 26 & 27 and Yashar 29:1-10). Yashar further says that Ya’aqov is very afraid of Esau, so he flees to the house of Eber (the son Shem – whom he had already spent 32 years with see Yashar 28:18-25) for the next 14 years.
During this time Esau becomes a big problem to his parents (Yashar 29:12-17). He is so angry that he moves away from them for six months, when his anger seems to have subsided just a bit, he returns he places his wives in his fathers house.
“And the women of Esau vexed and provoked Yitschaq and Rivqah with their works, for they walked not in the ways of YAHUAH, but served their father’s elohiym of wood and stone as their father had taught them, and they were more wicked than their father. And they went according to the evil desires of their hearts, and they sacrificed and burnt incense to the Ba’aliym and Yitschaq and Rivqah became weary of them.” Yashar 29:14-16
Finally 14 years later, Ya’aqov desired to his parents so he returns home. When Esau sees him, his anger is rekindled and again he plans to kill him! In Yashar 29:23-43 and Yovheliym 27:1, Rivqah is told what Esau is planning to do. Here again, she probably recalls what Avraham told her in Yovheliym 19:15-31, so again she takes action! In Yovheliym 27:2 she calls Ya’aqov to her and tells him to go and flee to Lavan’s house awhile until Esau’s again calms down and then she will send for him.
He then says he is not afraid of Esau, then she says:
Although she did not agree with Esau’s choices, she still loved him. She still would have been sadden by the loss of only the son who she had a closer relationship, but also of the one whom she did not. Most parents, love all their children – even the ones that cause them pain nor would they want their children to die at the hands of one another. She wanted the best for both of them and later on we will see how she tries encourages the relationship between the two.
Then he says he will go but that he is not going to go without his father knowing what he is doing. Rivqah agrees then goes and talks to Yitschaq. Yitschaq calls Ya’aqov and tells him to go to Lavan’s house and take a woman from there, then he blesses him and sends him off. I highly suggest reading the account in Yashar 63, however here are some other interesting things to know:
Back to Rivqah.
Rivqah is heartbroken. Her son, whom she loves so much, just returned home after 14 years, only to leave again for who knows how long. Yitschaq sees her weeping and speaks these kind words to her:
What loving and comforting words she received from her husband. He didn’t condemn her tears. He didn’t ignore them. He spoke gently to her heart. It is truly a blessing when my husband speaks comforting words to my heart.
Fast forward 14 years later, Yoceph is born (Yashar 31:19-21) and Rivqah longed to see her son so she sends her nurse Deborah and two servants (Yashar 31:22-31) to him. However this is when Lavan convinces Ya’aqov to stay a bit longer – six years longer in fact! Deborah chooses to stay with Ya’aqov but the servants return home to Yitchaq’s house. I can only imagine Rivqah’s disappointment when her son did not return home with the servants.
When he finally does begin his journey back home, Lavan comes after him and after they make a covenant – which Lavan breaks it immediately. Lavan sends his son Be’or and some servants to Esau to lie about Ya’aqov. Esau again prepares to kill Ya’aqov. Lavan’s son and servants, then go to Rivqah and tell her that Esau is leaving to kill Ya’aqov (Yashar 31:69-77). Immediately she sends 72 men from the servants of Ya’aqov to hopefully get to him before Esau. When Ya’aqov sees the 72 men coming he believes that YAHUAH has sent some people to him. After greeting him, they give him the message from his mother:
Inspite how Esau treated his parents, inspite of the words that Avraham spoke about Esau, she still tells Ya’aqov to honour him “because he is the elder.” She knew that YAHUAH had chosen Ya’aqov and not Esau, but she did not encourage Ya’aqov to be prideful about it. She encouraged him to supplicate which means to pray humbly to; entreat or petition humbly (dictionary.com); to speak kind to him – no smart mouth answers; to give him a present – sort of a peace offering and to be honest with Esau. This is rich wonderful motherly wisdom regarding the relationship between their sons.
Ya’aqov listens to her advice and you know the next part of the story. They met up, eventually Esau accepts the gifts and they depart (Bereshith 32-33; Yovheliym 29:12-14; Yashar 32).
In Yovheliym 29:15-20, we learn how Ya’aqov was a good, caring and unselfish son. He sent his father some of the substance he had: clothing and food, and meat, and drink, and milk and butter, and cheese, and some the dates of the valley. He also went to go see his mother four times a year and kept taking care of this parents as they had need.
Next, Dinyah is taken, Shimon and Leviy take righteous vengeance and their actions are recorded in heaven (Bereshith 34; Yovheilym 30, Yashar 33-36) and Levivy and all his sons are set apart as priests unto YAHUAH:
“And the seed of Leviy was chosen for the priesthood, and to be Leviyiym, that they might minister before YAHUAH, as we continually, and that Leviy and his sons may be blessed forever; for he was zealous to execute righteousness and vengeance on all those who rose against Yisra’el.” Yovheliym 30:18
So then Ya’aqov tells the people that they need to clean themselves up because they are going up to worship YAHUAH (Bereshith 35 and Yovheliym 31) and invited his father and mother to come to witness the fulfillment of his vow to YAHUAH (Bereshith 28:10-22; Yovheliym 27:19-27 and Yashar 30:1-3). Yitschaq tells Ya’aqov to come to him so he does. He brings with him Leviy and Yahudah. When Rivqah hears some one tell her that he is back, her ruach is strengthened and she blesses his sons that are with him:
Then he continues on to his father, where the Ruach of Prophesy goes into the mouth of Yitschaq and he prophesies over Leviy and Yahudah. In the evening, Ya’aqov tells his father about all the things that happened to him and invites him up to worship. His father says that he is too old but to take his mother.
I am sure that she is so happy, and how blessed she must have felt that she had the opportunity to witness this important time in Ya’aqov’s life. I can just see her walking around with gleam in her eyes and joy in her bones as she packed a bag or two! She was going to witness her son fulfill his vow to YAHUAH and do something with one of his sons that is awesome!!!!
That night on the 13th of the 7th month (Yovheliym 31:3 and Yovheliym 32:1-29) Leviy dreams that he is ordained priest. The next morning, Ya’aqov gets up and prepares to give a tithe of all that he has. But who does he give it to? Ya’aqov took a count of all his sons and the portion fell on Leviy, so Ya’aqov then clothes him in garments of the priesthood and filled Leviy’s hands with the tithe that he had prepared. Ya’aqov then gives his offerings and sacrifices daily for seven days. Furthermore, Leviy officially started in his role of priesthood before YAHUAH and his family.
After Ya’aqov fulfills his vow, Ya’aqob returns his mother to his fathers house. What a time she must have had. Oh, I can imagine how her heart exploded with joy. She saw her son-an honorable man, who kept his vow to YAHUAH, install the first priest, give the tithe and offer the best of all that he had unto YAHUAH. She witnessed his worship. What an awesome privilege and honor! She was able to see his family all 12 sons that she prophesied about.
I know that she was overflowing jubilation when she told her husband all that she saw and had experienced.
Part 3 – Rivqah’s Parting Words and Encouragement for Mothers coming up soon!