Most of my life I have only heard people focus on one aspect of Miykal (Michal) one of King David’s wives but recently as I was reading about King David with our children, I found several attributes of her that are awesome. The story is found in 1 Shemu’el (Samuel) 19:8-17.
The last time that Sha’ul threw his javelin at David, Sha’ul sent messengers to watch David at his house and to kill him in the morning. When Miykal learned of her father’s plan, she encouraged David to save his own life immediately. She helped him by letting him down through a window and then she made it look like David was in the bed sick. Even when her father asked her why she did what she did-she changed the story to seem like David was trying to save her by leaving. Miykal knew of her father’s jealously and his wrath no doubt, but still she chose to help David. She could have gotten killed herself by her own father, yet she risked her life to help him.
How many of us wives, will choose to risk ourselves in order to help our husband?
How many are able to give wise council to help our husbands?
How many can help in whatever ways our husband needs?
There is a scripture I read long ago, that says:
Miykal did not hesitate to be courageous and comfort (help) David. Rather Miykal choose to be courageous in spite of the danger she faced. She was courageous.
She was witty and quick thinking. There was no time to think and make an plan-action! Action needed to be taken immediately and she did it.
She used wisdom. Even when dealing with her father, she doesn’t appear to have went into a disrespectful rant. While we don’t know the complete conversation between David and Miykal prior to him leaving, she made it seem like David had chosen to save her life by leaving, when she answered his question. Every father would want his daughter to be protected and not be put in a position of being hurt so this reason seemed somewhat okay to Sha’ul.
How can we support our husbands better?
One of the best ways is through prayer. We can pray for our husbands. We can stand against the attacks of the enemy and war in prayer on behalf our husbands.
Another way is by making healthy choices. If there are health issues, we can choose to find ways to be a helper rather than a hindrance. For example we can choose to fix foods that bring health to our husbands rather than increase sickness upon them.
We can support them in their efforts of work. We can support them by speaking carefully instead of carelessly. We can support them by giving ourselves in intimacy. We can support them by just being a listening ear, instead of a critical one.
Long before I was married I read a book and it said that when most people are listening to another person talk, they are formulating answers or thinking about other things, and they usually miss what the other person is trying to communicate. Since then, in most cases, I try to turn my “thinker” off and truly turn a listening ear to the speaker. In most conversations with my husband, I am not formulating what I am going to say. I am just listening. Not judging him. Just listening.
Everyday we can make choices that are courageous, witty and wise.