15 Years, 15 Encouragements – #1 Turning the Arrow of Anger

It was bad.

It was the worst argument we have had in years.

It was brutal.

It was ugly.

It was loud.

It hurt.

Bad.

When things calmed down, separation was discussed.  For real.

But for some reason, that discussion fizzled out and we kept our distance from each other for a few days.  Then my husband came to me and said that maybe there was some truth in the hurtful words that were said.  He said that maybe we should pray for each other in those “arrows” that we spoke of in the argument.  He said that many of the things that we said, were things that continually come up (usually in arguments) so maybe there is some truth in them.

What?  Pray?

I thought about what he said.  I had prayed for those arrows somewhat.  But not like I needed to.  I’d given up hope and carried anger instead.

So we began that day to pray.  Sometimes with our kids and sometimes just us.

Surprisingly, change happened.  Not necessarily in the physical but spiritual.  YAHUAH began to change my anger into compassion.  This compassion helped me to see that many issues are rooted in something that has happened in the past and having nothing to do with me.  For example, if you have watched the movie “I Can Only Imagine” you know that Bart’s problem had nothing to do with Shannon but with his own issues.  We all have our issues and like weeds, if you don’t pull them up, they will take over any place they can.

Many times now, YAHUAH prompts my heart to back off in disagreements. In many potential times of disagreement, I have been able to see the enemy’s handy work-by recognizing those arrows of words to start churning in my mind when a disagreement is on the horizon. Words like:

“He always…”

“He never…”

“Why doesn’t he…”

“He’ll never change…”

Those thoughts lead to further destructive thoughts like:

“YAHUAH doesn’t care for me…”

I know I am not alone because the enemy’s tactic has been working for marriages from the beginning.  I am sure that Adam and Chuah(Who-Wah) had their share of arguments too.

But now that we see the wiles of the devil, we have done things differently.  Will we always recognize him?  No.  And just when we recognize one way, he comes another way.  So we must always be on guard.

Here are some Arrows of prayer that I frequently pray:

YAHUAH, my husband’s heart is in Your hands do as You see fit…

YAHUAH, regarding __________________ please, ______ (heal/bring deliverance, guard)  his heart in this area.

YAHUAH not my will but Your will be done in my husband’s life.

Praying the word, even singing the word has helped a lot.

So what I am trying to say is that, neither arguments nor words said within arguments – have to turn into the destruction of what YAHUAH has joined.  Those very arrows that the enemy desires us to use, should be turned into arrows of prayer to destroy the enemy of soul.  Lastly, I read somewhere recently, that the arrows used in battle long ago, were used as a distraction in warfare.  That being said, arrows of anger are just a distraction for us to lose our focus on what really is important-a marriage that brings Glory to the Father YAHUAH and His son YAHUSHA Messiah our Adonai and Savior.

 

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YAHUAH Who Sees Me

For a long time, I had felt I was in a valley.  Life was not terribly horrible, but emotionally I felt in a valley.  I felt alone.

Then a few Sabbaths ago, I knew I had to do one thing…

Lift my eyes.

My lifted eyes, met YAHUAH’s eyes of love and grace.

He was there with me.

The valley was necessary for me.  Instead of looking at the high mountains, the rocky cliffs, the deserts and potential things waiting to destroy me, I had to look up.

By looking up, I was taking my eyes off the situations, circumstances and potential storms, and seeing our Heavenly Father – YAHUAH – who is above and aware of all – and whose eyes are always on me.

Shabbat Message: Create In Me A Clean Heart

Do you ever feel like you are stuck?  Do you ever feel as if there is something holding you back?  Maybe there is.

Maybe there is something in your past that needs to be dwelt with.

One day it might show up, then what do you do?

Do you deny it? Push it under the rug? Pretend it doesn’t exist? Run away? Or…

Humble yourself, acknowledge the issue/problem, allowing the Pain to EXPOSE your heart so that YAHUAH can Heal and Create a New Heart in You.  That’s what YAHUAH wants anyway…Our Hearts.  Not our Self-Righteousness-but a heart that is BROKEN before Him.

This weeks Shabbat Message is encouragement for all because we all need to be continually asking YAHUAH to Create In Me A Clean Heart

No More Devouring!

Recently we have witnessed, the ending of three families on our street.  Many of the people in our subdivision, are people in their late thirties to early fifties.  They are families raising children of various ages-a few children, have just begun their college journey.

While we don’t make it our business to know what is going on in the homes of other people, when a spouse seems to be missing, houses are suddenly for sale or a different woman or man is coming around, one can’t help but notice that things have changed.

As we have noticed these changes we have been grieved.  Grieved for the children that are now living between two homes.  Grieved because a partnership and possibly a friendship has ended.  Grieved because what was meant “to be for the rest of my life” is now torn asunder.

Over the last few months, we have faced our share of marriage challenges.  Sometimes the challenges were intense enough to have a thought of getting a divorce (destroying our own family).  Sometimes there have been just minor misunderstandings.  Sometimes it seems as though there are days that we cannot make it through without being upset with each other about something.

Marriage is work.  Marriage is hard.  The enemy hates marriage.  As I have thought about writing the next part of Sarah’s Life, I have begun to take note that often the enemy comes in with destruction through subtle ways, seemingly harmless thoughts, moments of doubt and/or in ways/people/situations that we don’t have our armor up for.  In Sarah’s life, she did not recognize the enemy speaking to her (Yashar 23:76-86).  He came to her twice in a form that was not threatening.  The form that he took, was viewed by Sarah as an old humble meek man-she did not recognize him so she let his words stir up her worst fear and cause her to panic (I’ll finish her story later).

Many times lately, I haven’t recognized the enemy.  I’ve gotten caught up in the moment of whatever the situation was-not even realizing who was behind it.  In some cases, I have recognized the hand of the enemy and in those times, I have chosen to do things differently.  But this takes continual work and prayer.  We must stay on guard, in every area of our lives.  We must not let our marriages become devoured.

Soon my husband and I will have been married 15 years and so I have been working on writing a post, about some important things I have learned.  But whenever we have an issue, it is the last thing I want to write about.  That is a tactic of the enemy.  Keeping the knowledge to myself, keeps me fruitless but it also stops someone who might be encouraged-from receiving encouragement.

It is time to stop letting the sneaky lion, find ways to devour our homes, marriages, children, faith, belief and hope.  With much prayer and continual forgiveness and love with YAHUAH’s help, our marriages don’t have to become another statistic.

Coming soon…

How A Father’s View of Other Women Often Affects a Daughters View of Herself

I dreaded going to see him sometimes.

He lived in the 3/4 finished basement of his mother’s house, and in order to get to the bathroom, I had to walk down a hallway.  The hallway was dark with one dim light.  Along the wall were pictures of….women (inappropriate magazines) that as a child at that time, I should never had to see.

As a young girl between the age of 7-11, my stomach hurt when we would go for a visit to see my dad.  Part of me wanted to see him, but I did not want to see the women displayed on the wall.

As my dad began to bring us around his other girlfriends, I began to notice somethings.  They weren’t like me.  And they weren’t like my mother.  They were fair skinned (very very light brown in color) with straight long black hair.  My skin is brown.  My hair is kinky.  They were very thin and tall.  I was not.

As my body began to change (I was just slightly plump, but looking back I was just fine), I’ll never forgot the words he said to me one day, “Hey girl, you’re getting fat.”

In that moment, I remember all the pictures of those women.  Those were the women who were perfect in his eyes.  The women whose beauty was summed up in how it laid bare for the world to see.  Nope, that wasn’t me-but his words stuck in my head.  Like a record playing over and over.

Wonderful words you say to your daughter, right?  These words stuck.  The images of the immodest women on his walls stuck.  The memories of his girlfriends stuck.  I understood that he could like any woman he wanted, but what did it say about me?  Wasn’t I enough?  Wasn’t I beautiful too?  Was my beauty only tied to my outside?  What about my heart?  Couldn’t that be beautiful too?

I never really understood the power of the images and his words (lack of words too) until later in life.  I often  tried to be like those women but I just wasn’t.  My kinky “4c” hair texture took hours just to get a curl put in when I was in the sixth grade.  I never felt comfortable dressing too immodest-it just wasn’t me.  I tried to be comfortable being me, but acceptance took years.  Later in life, when I learned to use Photoshop, I understood that those images of those women were more than likely altered and YAHUAH began to show me that beauty is of the heart.

I was just beginning to accept myself in my middle twenties but I was still struggling a lot.  At that time, the single males that were around had a similar view of outward beauty and I wasn’t what they wanted.  Yet that was okay because YAHUAH had a plan.  He had a plan for a man who saw my beautiful inward and out.  Who wasn’t afraid of my love and devotion to our wonderful heavenly Father.  He wasn’t intimidated  by the amount of scriptures I knew, because he knew them too.  He wasn’t afraid of my dreams and hopes, because they were his too.  My husband was YAHUAH sent and like in Sarah and Toviyahu’s marriage, she was not meant to be joined to any other man but him.

My husband would (and still does), tell me that I am beautiful.  On the surface I accepted his words, but on the inside, I really did not believe him.  What was his motive?  Surely he must really admire that woman over there?

This went on for years, until I slowly and finally, laid the hurts of my father at the feet of the Master YAHUSHA Messiah and accepted the love of our heavenly Father, YAHUAH.  My earthly father my have left many voids in my life and shown me what he thought beauty was, but YAHUAH has filled those voids and given me beauty that can never fade-a fear and a love for Him.

Now, I still have some issues sometimes.  From having five kids, my stomach is not what I want it to be, but my husband does not care!  I have learned to receive his compliments without analyzing them.  Furthermore, since we have three daughters, I have seen him pour out words of affirmation, tenderness and love-like only a father can.  As I watch him with them, my heart continues to heal.  By him loving me and them, our daughters will have a healthy view of themselves.  Though the world may try to tell them that they aren’t enough, the words of our heavenly Father, YAHUAH and their earthly father will forever be etched on their hearts.

Shabbat Message: Come To My Rescue

Hopeless.

At the end of our rope.

Life’s storms billowing and tempestuous.

The Father YAHUAH has you right where He wants you at this point in time.  YAHUSHA Messiah had a path He had to walk and so do we.  YAHUAH is there with us and we must maintain our expectancy eagerly and with much patience despite what we see and feel.

No matter the storm, we must expect YAHUAH to Come To Our Rescue, believe His word and ask for help when we know that we are lacking.  Nothing-troubles in life, fear, crisis, trials, persecution nor tribulations-can separate us from HIS Love and HIS purpose, nor is any valley Too Low where HE Cannot See or Hear Us.

If you are in need of some encouragement, listen to this week’s Shabbat Message: Come To My Rescue

Shabbat Message: For His Glory

I don’t know about you, but this has been a rough week.  Like extremely rough. Daily fires, battles, tempers flaring, arguments, hurts, misunderstandings…for what? Why? Alone and forsaken I felt.  Somethings have seemed like thorns that keep getting deeper and deeper.

But the truth is…

YAHUAH was right there every moment.  He has a purpose in everything.  When we are at our weakest point, in our worst state, in what looks like impossible circumstances, YAHUSHA Messiah’s strength is perfected.  Through all of it YAHUAH implores us to seek Him in Spirit and Truth.  To seek His face.  We must be born again and receive the Set-Apart Spirit and turn our focus off of the wrong things – realizing that these things are for HIS Glory.

This week’s Shabbat Message For His Glory was strength for my discouraged soul and I pray it will be for yours too.

Shabbat Message: Salvation Through YAHUSHA Messiah

Cornelius was a faithful man, he fasted, he was a giver, he prayed to YAHUAH, he feared YAHUAH and had a good report with others but…

He was not saved.

He was not saved by his own righteousness.

YAHUAH sent a messenger to tell him he needed something else.

He needed to hear.

He was saved by hearing the words of Kepha!

While Kepha was speaking the Set-Apart Spirit fell on Cornelius and his household!  Kepha immediately immersed them.

This instance was so powerful that when Kepha recounted the story to the brothers who were extremely skeptical-they stopped criticizing the new believers and began to praise YAHUAH.

So what saves a person?  Torah?  Knowledge of words?  The Torah of Words? Find the answers to your questions and more in this weeks Shabbat Message: Salvation Through YAHUSHA Messiah.

 

 

 

 

Shabbat Message: Be Saved From This Crooked Generation

The times that we live in are extremely wicked and crooked.  What’s right is wrong and right is being vilified .  What is wrong is glorified and put as “normal.”  Every day there are more and more wicked crimes being committed.

Still there are people that YAHUAH is calling out of darkness into His marvelous light by His love; But how do we come out of such darkness?  There are three main things that must be present.  Today’s Shabbat Message: Be Saved From This Crooked Generation gives three very attainable things that must happen in ordered to be saved from this life, into YAHUAH’s love.

Shabbat Message: I Have Nothing Left to Give

What do you do when you are at your end?

Who do you turn to when you are in a time of need?

Who or what is giving (or rather appears to be giving) you the nourishment to sustain you?

Where do you find the support you need?

What are you longing for?

What do you do when more is required of you, yet there is nothing in you to give?

Our lives are so demanding these days.  Everyone and everything is pulling at us, demanding our time, energy and attention.  Some of us turn to work and some of us turn to other people to sustain us.  But what should be sustaining us?  And where should our hope lie?  Is our hope in our situation?

Come and listen to the word of YAHUAH that is able to give you a bit of strength and hope, in this Shabbat Message: I Have Nothing Else Left to Give

Shabbat Message: By the Blood and Cross of HaMashiach (Christ)

We all have a past.  In that past we may have done some things that we aren’t proud of.  Things that we’d rather not remember.  The past may hold some hurts that we try are best to forget. Just when we try to move on, here the past comes again.

In past (and sometimes right now in the present) we may have lived life wandering, destitute and barren  because we were at enmity with YAHUAH the Father.  But when YAHUSHA His son died on the cross, His shed Blood brought Peace between us and YAHUAH.  Now we have forgiveness of sin and hope in our daily lives.  There is no law, no action, no price that can do what YAHUSHA’s shed Blood did for us because it is by YAHUAH’s Grace that We ARE Saved.  And because we are now saved and in right relationship with YAHUAH, we now are fellow citizens of the set-apart ones and members of the household of YAHUAH.

If you’d like a past to be wiped clean in heaven, if you’d like some peace in your life, if you’d like to be in right relationship with our heavenly Father, then I encourage you to listen to this Shabbat Message: By the Blood and the Cross of HaMashiach (Christ).

Shabbat Message: Bring A Revival

Dry.

Lifeless.

Holding on hoping for something, yet feeling like a Chain is Keeping us Bound up, never able to Receive True Freedom.

Why?  Where did we go wrong?  We’ve learned the “Truth”, right?  We’ve come to “Knowledge”, right?

Then why are we dead inside.  Where is the Life Giving Water that is supposed to refresh us?

If our righteousness is truly found in YAHUSHA, we must learn to live life in the freedom that is given through His Shed Blood, not the Torah.  The Torah is the Vehicle To Faith, however, it Doesn’t Break the Chains of Sin Off of Our Lives.  The Torah Doesn’t Give us Victory.  The life changing victories in our lives come from the Life Changing Blood of YAHUSHA Messiah.

If you are indeed thirsty for Living Water and for the Father YAHUAH to bring Revival in your life, then listen to this week’s Shabbat Message: Bring A Revival.

 

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Shabbat Message: HE Is a Present Help

What do openness, waiting, being humble, fear, acknowledgement, reconciliation and love all have in common?

What they all have in common is our Father in Heaven YAHUAH.

YAHUAH is standing at the door of hearts waiting for us to open our hearts to him.

Sometimes we have to wait while YAHUAH is leading and teaching us.

We must come and humbly acknowledge that YAHUAH has a Son; YAHUSHA.

We must acknowledge that YAHUAH’s love is the glue that holds our lives and very existence all together.

It is by YAHUAH’s love that we can we be reconciled to have right relationship with HIM through the shed blood of His son YAHUSHA Messiah our Savior.

YAHUAH is waiting for us right now; are you ready to be right with Him?

Come and be encouraged as you listen to this week’s Shabbat Message: HE Is a Present Help.