It was the worst argument we have had in years.
It was brutal.
It was ugly.
It was loud.
When things calmed down, separation was discussed. For real.
But for some reason, that discussion fizzled out and we kept our distance from each other for a few days. Then my husband came to me and said that maybe there was some truth in the hurtful words that were said. He said that maybe we should pray for each other in those “arrows” that we spoke of in the argument. He said that many of the things that we said, were things that continually come up (usually in arguments) so maybe there is some truth in them.
I thought about what he said. I had prayed for those arrows somewhat. But not like I needed to. I’d given up hope and carried anger instead.
So we began that day to pray. Sometimes with our kids and sometimes just us.
Surprisingly, change happened. Not necessarily in the physical but spiritual. YAHUAH began to change my anger into compassion. This compassion helped me to see that many issues are rooted in something that has happened in the past and having nothing to do with me. For example, if you have watched the movie “I Can Only Imagine” you know that Bart’s problem had nothing to do with Shannon but with his own issues. We all have our issues and like weeds, if you don’t pull them up, they will take over any place they can.
Many times now, YAHUAH prompts my heart to back off in disagreements. In many potential times of disagreement, I have been able to see the enemy’s handy work-by recognizing those arrows of words to start churning in my mind when a disagreement is on the horizon. Words like:
“Why doesn’t he…”
“He’ll never change…”
Those thoughts lead to further destructive thoughts like:
“YAHUAH doesn’t care for me…”
I know I am not alone because the enemy’s tactic has been working for marriages from the beginning. I am sure that Adam and Chuah(Who-Wah) had their share of arguments too.
But now that we see the wiles of the devil, we have done things differently. Will we always recognize him? No. And just when we recognize one way, he comes another way. So we must always be on guard.
Here are some Arrows of prayer that I frequently pray:
YAHUAH, my husband’s heart is in Your hands do as You see fit…
YAHUAH, regarding __________________ please, ______ (heal/bring deliverance, guard) his heart in this area.
YAHUAH not my will but Your will be done in my husband’s life.
Praying the word, even singing the word has helped a lot.
So what I am trying to say is that, neither arguments nor words said within arguments – have to turn into the destruction of what YAHUAH has joined. Those very arrows that the enemy desires us to use, should be turned into arrows of prayer to destroy the enemy of soul. Lastly, I read somewhere recently, that the arrows used in battle long ago, were used as a distraction in warfare. That being said, arrows of anger are just a distraction for us to lose our focus on what really is important-a marriage that brings Glory to the Father YAHUAH and His son YAHUSHA Messiah our Adonai and Savior.