Who Was She? Deborah, Channah, Edna and Sarah – Married Again? Is there any hope?

In case you missed the any part of the story, be sure to read, Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3.  Remember, Toviyahu was also called Tobit and he also named his son Toviyahu.  So that the story is easier to understand, I have chosen to refer to Toviyahu the father as Tobit and Toviyahu the son as, Toviyahu.

Finally in Tobit Chapter 7, Toviyahu and Azaryahu (the angel Raph’el) made it to Ecbatane were Re’u’el lives and were greeted by Sarah.  Being a gentleman and a son of order, Toviyahu did not immediately disclose what they were there for.  In verse v2, Edna, Sarah’s mothers, says that Toviyahu resembles her cousin Toviyahu (Tobit) very much, yet Toviyahu did not reveal that he was Toviyahu’s (Tobit’s) son.

Re’u’el then asks where they are from. They respond by saying they are captives in Niyneveh.  Immediately Re’u’el asks if they know their kinsman Toviyahu?

Toviyahu then says that he is Toviyahu’s son and tells of his father becoming blind. At the hearing of the news, Re’u’el, Edna and Sarah all weep and are are sorrowful for Toviyahu (Tobit).  Then Re’u’el has a ram of his flock killed and they have a good time together.  Finally Raph’el spoketo Re’u’el about Sarah.  Re’u’el was elated!!!  A kinsmen has come to redeem his daughter, by right of inheritance!  An honest man, Re’u’el says to Toviyahu:

“For it is meet that you marry my daughter: nevertheless I will declare unto you the Truth.  I have given my daughter in marriage to seven men, who died that night they came in unto her: nevertheless for the present be merry.” v10-11

So Re’u’el and Toviyahu made an agreement with one another and Re’u’el calls his daughter Sarah in and says to them:

“Behold, take her after the Torah of Mosheh and lead her away to your father. And he blessed them.” v13

Then Re’u’el called Edna into them, then he wrote the covenants down on paper and sealed them.  Then he told Edna to prepare another chamber (room).

I can only imagine how Edna must have felt for her daughter as she had prepared this chamber now for the eighth time.  I imagine that she was somewhat sorrowful, all the while praying this was the last time her daughter would have to go through this.  Who would want to see their child suffer?  Her only daughter, whose hope was to be a wife, who had kept herself and not brought shame to her father, was plagued and stopped from fulfilling that which is natural!  Like all mothers do, she had hopes of celebrating this time with her daughter, would she have joy this time?

Now when she had done what Re’u’el had asked, she brought her daughter in and they-mother and daughter wept together.

Here they were again, in a lovely room.  Sweet fragrance. Inviting of a new season, maybe.

Only a sliver of hope that this time it might be different.

This time he won’t die.

Her scorn might end.

Her torment might end.

Together they wept.

Tears of broken dreams.

A mother who could do nothing to stop the pain her daughter felt and might feel again.

Tears of a daughter who was on the brink of losing it.  Why me, she might have said.  What is wrong with me?  What have I done to deserve this?

Despite her own fear of it happening again, Edna, her mother, sweetly comforted Sarah with these words:

“Be of good comfort, my daughter, YAHUAH of heaven and earth give you joy for this sorrow: be of good comfort, my daughter.” v18

In many ways, I believe that we mothers have lost this type of connection with our daughters.  We are told that big girls don’t cry and to get on with life as young girls.  Then we repeat the same words to our own daughters!

When children are small, it is easier to be compassionate to them, but as they age, expectations change, we as mothers, may not sympathize with our daughters as much.  Over the last year or so, I have purposely decided to do things differently.  Many times, when our daughters are crying,  whether I agree with the reason or not, I grab them and hold them.  I tell them it is okay to cry.  I try not to down play their tears and see their hearts.  I am not perfect and sometimes I forget.  But I want them to know that it is okay to cry and that sometimes tears are comforting.  I pray that YAHUAH would give me words of comfort and encouragement for our daughters in their times of sorrow.

I can remember hearing my own mother’s tears as I wept and told her what was happening with our 12 day old son as he was in the NICU for WPW with SVT.   There are also somethings a mom just knows.  Many times she has shared a word of encouragement, even when I haven’t disclosed a trial.

I want to say that my own dad choose not to be apart of my life, so I only know the comfort I receive from our heavenly Father, YAHUAH, daily.  Our three daughters, do have the blessing of experiencing the comfort from their father every day and I am truly thankful.  He grabs them, holds them and hugs them everyday and I know our daughters will always know that they are truly “Daddies Girls” and “Mommies Pretty Momma’s” all their life.

So mothers let us prepare our daughters for the next season and let us comfort our daughters more!

Next what happens in the chamber and a feast!

 

 

 

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